Brenda Skidmore's Health Tips

I searched all week to find a good blog post topic. Nothing was really jumping out to grab my attention it seemed, until I spotted an inspiring article in my local, weekly community newspaper. The weekly column writer was asking his audience how often, and in what ways, do you show the important people in your life how much you love them? What creative ideas do you use?

To me, at least, one of the most fun ways I love to express my feelings for someone I care deeply about is to surprise them with a brief little love note. I think hand written ones are more special, but text messaging is okay too. Have you ever expressed yourself this way, or have you ever gotten one? I have, and they are such an emotional boost. It may seem like such a simple thing to do, but the positive impact it can leave the receiver with speaks volumes of your true feelings for them. I am even reluctant to erase one off a mirror, or throw a written one away. I guess I'm sentimental, or maybe, I just like to hold on to the memory of when I found it.

Love notes can be a fun game to play with your child or grandchild, spouse, or lover. There are many popular places, for those of us who like to write them, to leave them to be found like bathroom mirrors, refrigerators, lunch boxes, and inside automobiles. Writing these little surprise love notes are not only emotionally good for the intended one, but for the sender as well.

When you get one, it just makes you glow inside. Getting one at the beginning of your day is especially great, because you get to start your day knowing that you are loved. And, who wouldn't appreciate knowing that? I think it would be really hard to be unhappy when you know that someone loves you.

Perhaps we should tell everyone in our household that they are loved, but we need to do it in such a way as to let them know we really mean it. What better way than surprising them, today, with a little love note.

It is easier to love and care for one another when you can begin to see the ones you love as an extension of the love you feel for yourself. When the walls of separation are lowered between two people the oneness, or intimacy, can become a fascinating, exciting, and sweet human experience to share.

There is so much evidence coming to the surface now, proving beyond a shadow of doubt, that emotions, both positive or negative, affect your physical health. That is something Western medicine has a hard time understanding.

When it comes to happy or unhappy marital unions, an unhappy one can lead to heart disease, blood pressure problems, and excessive physical pains. Just as eating a proper diet and exercising regularly is important to avoiding physical maladies, so too is getting your emotional stresses under control. We all must do some emotional house cleaning from time to time.

A lot of people complain about all of the different stress factors in their lives. Complaining , however, does nothing to change the situation. If it did, we would not have stresses to begin with. Yet, it is impossible to eliminate stress out of your life, and even if you could I don't think any of us would be happy even then. Why? Because without stress you would not have a physical indicator motivating you to make some necessary, and positive, changes in your life. At the very least, you would soon be bored with life in general, and how would you ever stretch, grow, and learn?

In that context, it sheds a different light on stress and what purpose it serves in our lives. Stressful situations are not the real problem anyway, it is about learning how to view and handle the challenges in your life differently. How about trying to change some of the stories you are telling yourself. Asking questions is good. Have you ever wondered who wrote the rulebook on life anyway?