Brenda Skidmore's Health Tips

As human beings, a lot of us tend to work way to hard to achieve the impossible. We mess things up and complicate our goals, unnecessarily. A higher, deeper part of us truthfully believes we can have it all, while a smaller, selfish, and fearful ego part of us tells us there is no way we can have what we desire and dream of having.

Of course, having it all is going to mean something different to everyone. And, what seems to confuse our higher self (who we really are) more than anything, is the constant daily assault of false advertising that comes via the mainstream media sources we expose ourselves to like television, radio, magazines, and newspapers. The product marketing sector of our modern day culture spoon feeds us many lies, therefore, it really becomes difficult to determine if we are only striving for the things we think we are supposed to want, or if some of our goals really are not ours and belong to someone else.

Take this as an example, do you believe drug companies really have the only magical one-pill solution to most of your health problems? Do you really believe that you will not have to lift a finger in changing any negative aspects about your life to get the results they are promising? Have you ever questioned the logic presented at the end of the drug commercial, "when diet, lifestyle, and exercise fail, then maybe XYZ is right for you. Talk to your doctor."

Be a myth buster in asking intelligent questions, because diet, lifestyles changes, and exercise does not usually fail too many people. It's sad but true, but many people are influenced by fear mongering tactics, slick advertising campaigns, and the opinions of family and friends.

At times, even the most independent of thinkers can be susceptible to second-guessing themselves. When you over think something you are also limiting your true potential. It's a form of playing it safe. When we are lying to ourselves, basically, we are giving ourselves permission to say 'no' to something.

Sometimes this is a good thing, and sometimes it's not. They say too much of anything is not good for you. I think that's true, always try to seek a balance.

What are some of the circumstances going on in your life that are troubling you? What kind of stories are you telling yourself that are keeping you from fulfilling your dreams?

The working mom example is a common dilemma for many women. Whatever reasons you are choosing to work, because you feel it's a necessity or you want a career, it can be overwhelming for those who try to work and raise a family. I have been there, and it was very challenging.

There are going to be times when you feel so stressed when your house is often messy, not enough time for more nutritious home cooked meals, and you feel like you should be more involved with your kids at school. Plus, being a lovely and ravishing companion for your husband or boyfriend.

Sometimes, the harder you work in keeping all those balls juggling in the air, the more you begin to feel like a loser. Maybe this low feeling has something to do with expectations. How high are yours? Are they set, unrealistically, too high?

Take a real long, good look at your family. Maybe your house isn't kept as neat and tidy as you would like it to be, ALL OF THE TIME.

Maybe, your kids aren't as polite as you would like them to be ALL OF THE TIME.

And, maybe that last home cooked meal you prepared did arrive at your house via the Colonel. In that moment, when you and your family gathered around the table to share this meal, did they seem to be pleased that you thought about them ? Were they all, for the most part, happy and healthy?

Maybe you are the only one present, most of the time, who thinks you can't have it all.

Are you killing yourself, in being who you really aren't, to try to be something your family really is not interested in? Does your family really care if you haven't had time to run the vacuum today, or would they rather spend time connecting with you instead? Do your kids and significant other appear to be happy with frozen pizza and a salad for supper, and have more of your attention? Maybe, they could care less about your hang-ups about perfection. Because, your hang-up is going to cost you in ways that only serve to make you unhappy, if you hold on to it.

Maybe gracefully letting go of this notion is the KEY to having it all. Because the truth is, you can have it all, sometimes, just not ALL OF THE TIME.

There are plenty of lies being believed out there. Some people really believe we can't have lots of money and have wonderful, fulfilling relationships at the same time. Or, that being poor is more noble than being rich, and so many others.

I recently found an inspiring author by the name of Susan James. She also offers several different subject courses on personal development. There is also lots of free stuff on her site to take advantage of if you feel like you don't have the extra money to buy books.

Susan writes in a style that you can relate easily to, in helping you bust some of the myths in your life. I suggest starting with the Manifesting 101 & Beyond series of articles. I love them and their free. I think you will enjoy reading them too. What have you got to lose, and what might you gain?